I can’t stand to say goodbye

As soon as I heard that Ozzy Osbourne had died last week at age 76, I quickly concluded that I had my work cut out for me. I don’t regard myself as particularly qualified to write knowledgeably about the man credited with “inventing” heavy metal. It’s a genre that really never spoke to me. I guess I wasn’t really a part of the demographic for it.

But my son-in-law Mikey is. When he was a teen in the 2000s, he was in a heavy metal band called Swamp Thing that actually toured Europe, and they even had a reunion concert within the past year. He is pretty much a disciple of Ozzy, so I asked him to share his thoughts. He sent me an email teeming with facts and opinions, and the comment I found most interesting is: “Chronicling Ozzy isn’t mere obituary writing; it’s exploring the genesis and evolution of heavy metal, reality TV, and the notion of celebrity itself.”

So much about the man born John Robert Osbourne is a study in contrasts.

He invented an evil persona, and yet he was capable of surprisingly funny and wise remarks. He turned Black Sabbath, once an obscure British hard rock band from Birmingham, into an international success, and yet he was a serious alcoholic and drug addict for many years. He wrote a few songs about the dangers of excessive drug use, and yet wrote many more about defiantly partying his days and nights away. He had a vocal style that conveyed both madness and melancholy, sometimes simultaneously. He firmly stood his ground on stage as The Prince of Darkness, and yet he spent a decade starring as a clueless husband/father on an MTV reality show.

Despite appearing to be a mess for much of his career, Osbourne actually seemed to have a master plan — a method to his madness — or, at the very least, a resilience to rebound from relapse to reinvent himself and surge ahead. As one writer put it last week, “The fact that he kept waking up alive every morning for the next 40-plus years is one of the weirdest things that’s ever happened in rock & roll. Nobody would have bet on this guy to survive the Eighties, much less keep getting more famous every year, but his star never stopped rising.”

Frankly, I’ve been rather gobsmacked at the outpouring of adulation and mourning that has been shown these past several days by his intensely loyal fan base, but perhaps it goes to show how much I didn’t know (or relate to) about Osbourne and his music. From the very beginning, he was a teenage antihero who spoke authentically for the misfits, rejects and outcasts — because he had been one himself.

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Born into a troubled, violent home life in working-class Birmingham, Osbourne struggled in school, suffering from dyslexia and attention-deficit disorder, which made him a target of bullies. “I always felt crappy, and was intimidated by everyone,” he said in 1996. “So my whole thing was to act crazy and make people laugh so they wouldn’t jump on me.”

Osbourne in 1969

In 1963, “the planets shifted” when he first heard The Beatles. “I was 15. It was a divine experience.” He dropped out of school and attempted various jobs — toolmaking, construction, auto repair, working in a slaughterhouse — but ended up serving a two-month prison sentence for burglary. At that point, he was keen on forming a band, and his father, in an uncharacteristic show of support, bought him a microphone and an amp and speakers. Osbourne posted an ad in a music shop that claimed, “Experienced front man owns own PA system,” which caught the attention of guitarist Terence “Geezer” Butler, and the two of them ultimately joined forces with guitarist Tony Iommi and drummer Bill Ward from another band and called themselves Earth.

They all had shown a preference for acid rock and other hard rock sub-genres and liked the idea of presenting dark themes and sounds, so they wrote songs designed to scare audiences in the same way horror movies do. Butler told the group about a nightmare he had in which he felt a sinister presence at the foot of his bed, and he devised a three-chord structure full of dread, on top of which Osbourne spontaneously came up with the defiant lyric, “What is this that stands before me?” Iommi contributed the crushing power chords over Butler’s bass line, and the frightening vibe they created became not only their first song but the new name for their band: “Black Sabbath,” which had also been the name of a morbid 1963 Boris Karloff horror anthology film they admired.

Black Sabbath, from left: Tony Iommi, Bill Ward, Ozzy Osbourne, Geezer Butler

Rock historians have never agreed exactly when heavy metal was born, but a strong argument can be made it was when Osbourne and company wrote and recorded that disturbing debut LP. Said Iommi, “We knew we had something. You could feel it. The hairs stood up on your arms. It just felt so different.” The dirge-like tempo of much of their music was offset by a track they wrote as they were wrapping up sessions for their second LP, a rapid-fire rocker lasting just 2:48 that became their first hit and the new title song for the album: “Paranoid.” It reached #2 in the UK, and although it stalled at #61 in the US, it put the album in the Top Ten here and gave a wider mainstream exposure of what had been a fringe genre.

The misperception by conservative parents that Sabbath played music that celebrated Satan was, though partly true, only a fraction of their focus. Their songs protested the state of the world in the 1970s in which disaffected teenagers found themselves. “War Pigs” decried the military minds that sent young men off to die. “Hand of Doom” warned of the downward spiral of hard drug use. “Electric Funeral” bemoaned the feared plague of nuclear radiation. “Paranoid” spoke of the fear of mental illness and insanity. Even their signature song “Iron Man” was actually the sad tale of a guy who invents a time machine, learns the world will soon end, but when he returns to present day to warn people, he turns to iron and no one will listen to him, so he seeks revenge by killing. Violent, but sympathetic.

Osbourne, who once said he was “more ham than musician,” thrived on playing up the dramatic aspects of heavy metal, especially in concert, where the theatrics sometimes overshadowed the music. The whole band indulged in acid, weed and booze, often in copious amounts, but when coke entered the picture, its isolating nature threatened to tear the group apart. Indeed, Osbourne became unpredictable and therefore unreliable, leading to his being dismissed in 1979. Needless to say, this didn’t go down well with Ozzy or his fans. “Firing me for being fucked up was hypocritical bullshit,” he wrote in 2009’s “I Am Ozzy” autobiography. “We were all fucked up. I’m getting fired because I’m slightly more stoned than you are?”

Black Sabbath continued on with American heavy metal singer Ronnie James Dio replacing Osbourne, and they continued releasing popular LPs and touring throughout the ’80s and into the ’90s, but they never quite measured up to their early years nor to the solo career Osbourne forged with his own group. 1980’s “Blizzard of Ozz” and 1981’s “Diary of a Madman” were multi-platinum juggernauts that established him as a superstar, thanks in part to radio anthems like “Crazy Train” and “Flying High Again,” featuring the sizzling guitar work of ex-Quiet Riot axeman Randy Rhoads.

When Rhoads perished in a plane crash, Osbourne took it hard, abusing drugs and alcohol to the point where his wild-man antics threatened to take him down prematurely. It was during this period when, in the middle of a concert in 1982, someone threw what he thought was a rubber toy bat on stage, and he impulsively scooped it up, tossed it in his mouth and chomped down. “Immediately, something felt very wrong,” he recalled later. “I realized, oh no, it’s real.” The young man who threw it acknowledged it was a real bat but said it had been dead for several days, so the rumor that he had bit the head off a live bat is untrue. Nevertheless, Ozzy’s miscue led to a trip to the hospital and several painful rabies shots.

During the mid-’80s backlash by evangelicals against what they felt were inappropriate song lyrics, Ozzy’s song “Suicide Solution” was criticized for advocating suicide, but he quickly set the record straight. “It wasn’t written as ‘oh, that’s the solution, suicide,'” he said. “I was a heavy drinker at the time and was drinking myself to an early grave. Alcohol was a suicide solution, as in ‘mixed drink.'”

Fate intervened when he started dating Sharon Arden, whose father had been Black Sabbath’s manager. Sharon took over Osbourne’s management as a solo artist and the two married in 1982. She tolerated and survived a litany of bad behavior from Ozzy, some of it violent, and managed to persevere with him, ultimately getting him into recovery from his addictions.

In an unlikely pairing, Lita Ford, guitarist for the all-female U.S. rock band The Runaways, teamed up with Osbourne one drunken evening in 1988 to write and record “Close My Eyes Forever,” which ended up reaching #8 on US pop charts the following year.

In 1995, when Osbourne sought to be included in that year’s lineup for the Lollapalooza festival, he was turned down because organizers felt he didn’t fit the vibe they were going for at that time. Undeterred, Ozzy and Sharon masterminded Ozzfest, which became a major annual international touring event that assembled the major heavy metal bands of the day. By the end of the decade, the festival was riding a wave of popularity with the emerging “nu-metal” scene, whose bands treated Osbourne like a deity.

It should be noted that, amidst all the years of metal madness, Osbourne had a quiet side that manifested itself in atypical tracks like Sabbath’s “Changes” and power ballads like “Dreamer.” Most famously, perhaps, is 1991’s “Mama, I’m Coming Home,” a heartbreaking but hopeful song not about Ozzy’s mother but about Sharon. “I often call Sharon ‘Mama,’ because she mothers me so well,” he said in 2018. “I owe my life to her.”

The Osbournes, from left: Jack, Ozzy, Kelly, Sharon

That devotion showed up in the most unconventional way when MTV came up with “The Osbournes,” a reality TV show that took the cable network’s viewing audience by storm for three seasons (2002-2005). It depicted Ozzy as a clueless but well-meaning family man who deferred to Sharon as the head of the dysfunctional but lovable household that included daughter Kelly and son Jack. It reinforced his image as a befuddled, profanity-spewing derelict while also revealing a vulnerable, witty personality that made him a more sympathetic figure than he’d been in the past.

Indeed, I was a bit startled to see the number of mainstream musicians who collaborated with him on some of his late-career projects. Osbourne’s 2020 LP “Ordinary Man” featured duets with Elton John and Post Malone, while his final album, “Patient Number 9,” included contributions from guitar legends Jeff Beck and Eric Clapton.

Even more remarkable was the fact that Osbourne had become good friends with his former neighbor, the squeaky-clean ’50s pop icon Pat Boone, who recorded a big-band version of “Crazy Train” that, although thoroughly cringey, was actually used (ironically) as the theme song for “The Osbournes” show. “When he and Sharon and the kids lived next door to me for a couple of years, we weren’t celebrities comparing careers,” Boone said recently. “We were just friends and neighbors getting along. Others may celebrate his incredible rocking style and hard rock music, but I’ll always remember his warm friendliness. God bless you, Ozzy.”

In 2006, Osbourne was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame as a member of Black Sabbath (and and again as a solo artist in 2024). At that first induction ceremony, Metallica drummer Lars Ulrich made a point of emphatically declaring the group’s monumental influence on so many bands who followed: “On any given day, the heavy-metal genre might as well be subtitled “Music derivative of Black Sabbath.”

Ozzy with granddaughter Andy Rose, one of Jack’s daughters

In my recent research about Osbourne and his career, I got a few chuckles reading an article that collected several of his more humorous asides, which are not only funny but philosophically astute. For example: “The thing about life that makes me crazy is that, by the time you learn it all, it’s too late to use it. It should be the other way around. We should be born with all this common sense and knowledge and then get stupider as we get older.”

His self-deprecating humor was refreshing in its honesty. “For a while there,” he said once, “I was a complete mess. I was about as useful as an ashtray on a motorcycle.” It also extended to the way he titled his solo tours. He contemplated stepping down when he embarked on his “No More Tours” tour in 1992, then turned around in 1995 with his “Retirement Sucks” tour. Twenty years later, one last tour was entitled the “No More Tours II” tour.

Osbourne suffered from Parkinson’s and also sustained lasting damage from a fall in 2019 that hospitalized him for many months. He hated that these things prevented him from performing, which is where he always felt most comfortable. Through a concerted effort and help from Sharon and his Black Sabbath mates, he staged a marathon gig in his hometown only three weeks ago that netted nearly $200 million, which was donated to charity for research into Parkinson’s. Said Butler last week: “Goodbye, old friend. We had some great fun. Four kids from Aston — who’d have thought? So glad we got to do it one last time, back in Aston.” Added Iommi, “There won’t ever be another like you.”

Ozzy, July 5, 2025

As one article summed it up: “That act alone says everything about the kind of legend he was: giving back, even as he took his last bow. There’s everyone else in rock ’n’ roll… and then there’s Ozzy. It felt perfectly fitting that his last gig, just weeks before his passing, saw him seated on a throne, his body fading, but his spirit as fierce as ever.”

(A 100-minute concert film, “Back to the Beginning: Ozzy’s Final Bow,” scheduled for release in early 2026, will feature highlights of the day, including segments by Alice in Chains, Guns N’ Roses and Metallica, among others, and Osbourne’s final solo performance and final set with Black Sabbath.)

Ozzy himself said this as he contemplated retirement: “Retire from what? It’s not a job. How can you retire from a rock band? I don’t know anything else. I’ll retire when they put the fucking nail in the lid.”

And this: “I’m not the devil people make me out to be. I’ve always been the guy who wants to make people laugh, headbang, and forget their problems — at least for a while.”

R.I.P., Ozzy. The heavy metal universe, and many who were not a part of it, acknowledge your considerable influence and contributions.

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For this Spotify playlist, I’ve selected 18 Black Sabbath songs and 27 tracks from Ozzy’s solo career.

Where the boys are, someone waits for me

OK, so singer Connie Francis died last week. She was 87.

I’m guessing there’s no more than a handful of readers of this blog — in their 60s or 70s — who might say, “Oh, I used to LOVE her songs!”

Others (like me) know her name and are vaguely aware of her career in the late 1950s and early 1960s, but didn’t much care for her music.

Most readers probably might not be able to tell me anything about her, or even recognize her name.

Francis was from that bygone era when pop/jazz/swing vocalists still dominated the US pop charts as the upstart new genre known as rock and roll was beginning to make inroads. She had more in common with traditional ’50s crooners like Rosemary Clooney, Doris Day and Jo Stafford than the early ’60s pop/rock singers like Lesley Gore, Dionne Warwick or Nancy Sinatra.

So why write a tribute about her on my rock music blog?

Well, I did some research and learned she was more groundbreaking and influential for a spell than I had realized. In listening to the highlights of her catalog, I must say that much of it is too cloying and even cringey for my tastes, but Francis had a quality singing voice, charted 14 Top Ten singles (including three Number Ones) and another couple dozen in the Top 40. She also recorded albums in a variety of styles, ranging from R&B, jazz, country, Broadway, children’s music, spiritual songs and traditional ethnic music, many in their native languages (mostly Italian, Yiddish, German, Spanish and Irish), which made her hugely popular in Europe. Between 1958 and 1962, she was one of the biggest singing stars in the music business internationally.

Francis also earned some credentials in rock music circles because she wasn’t averse to recording solid cover versions of early rock classics like Elvis Presley’s “Heartbreak Hotel” and “Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me,” Dave Bartholomew’s “I Hear You Knockin’,” Fats Domino’s “I’m Walkin'” and Ray Charles’s “Hallelujah I Love You So.”

She might be best known for the 1960 hit “Where the Boys Are,” the title song for the relatively innocent “coming of age” teenage film in which Francis also made her acting debut in a secondary role. The song reached #4, and the film is credited with turning the sleepy Florida town of Fort Lauderdale into THE Spring Break destination for years to come. (She went on to starring roles in two similar films, 1963’s “Follow the Boys” and 1965’s “Where the Boys Meet the Girls.”)

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Born in 1937 as Concetta Rosa Maria Franconero, the first child of Italian-American parents in Brooklyn, Francis was encouraged (some say pushed) by her father to enter talent contests and pageants as a child singer and accordionist. At age 13, she was tapped to appear on the TV/radio program “Arthur Godfrey’s Talent Scouts,” where she was advised to change her name to Connie Francis and drop the accordion (which she was all too happy to do). She continued singing and performing at local events throughout high school, reverting to using Concetta Franconero or Connie Franconero to please her Italian family and friends, and appeared on NBC’s “Startime Kids” variety show for two years.

Then in 1955, her father helped secure her a recording contract with MGM Records, which also led to singing voiceovers for non-singing actresses in film roles. Francis sang “I Never Had a Sweetheart” and “Little Blue Wren” for Tuesday Weld’s starring role in the 1956 jukebox musical “Rock, Rock, Rock.” But none of her MGM singles charted, and she was about to lose her record deal when she relented to her father’s insistence that she record a contemporary arrangement of, of all things, a 1923 waltz called “Who’s Sorry Now?”

“I didn’t want to record the song, but my father insisted,” Francis said in 1984. “I thought that trying to sell a young audience on a 35-year-old song was ridiculous, but I went along as a favor to my dad. I didn’t try to imitate other singers, as I often did, I just sounded like myself for the first time. Then, I was watching ‘American Bandstand’ in January 1958 when Dick Clark introduced ‘a new song by a new girl singer. No doubt about it,’ he predicted, ‘she’s headed straight for the Number One spot.’ And he played ‘Who’s Sorry Now?’ I couldn’t believe it!” By March, the song reached #4 on US charts and #1 in the UK, and by a wide margin, Francis was voted Best Female Vocalist by “American Bandstand” viewers, a distinction she won three times over the next four years.

Suddenly, she was being approached by songwriters pitching all kinds of songs to her, including up-and-coming Brill Building team Neil Sedaka and Howard Greenfield, who supplied “Stupid Cupid” (#14), “Everybody’s Somebody’s Fool” (her first #1), “My Heart Has a Mind Of Her Own” (#1) and also “Where the Boys Are.” Francis seemed at ease with multiple genres — easy listening, country, R&B, blues, Christmas songs, traditional ethnic music — that broadened her appeal and kept her high on the charts for several years.

Earlier I called her material “cloying and even cringey,” which I attribute to syrupy string arrangements, cutesy lyrics and heavy-handed vocal harmonies. Take a track like “Lipstick On My Collar,” a Top Five hit in 1959. The annoying backing voices and insipid words had me reaching for the mute button within mere seconds (even though, if you dig deeper, you can hear Francis doing a fine job on the lead vocal). Just because I’ve never been able to embrace this style, the numbers show it was quite popular with large segments of the record-buying public in those years. Indeed, Francis made an astonishing 26 appearances on “The Ed Sullivan Show” between 1958 and 1970, ranking her among the most frequent guests on that highly rated TV variety show.

Francis and Darin sing a duet on “Ed Sullivan” in 1963

Like many of the “teen idol” singers of the period (Frankie Avalon, Bobby Rydell, Fabian Forte, Bobby Darin), Francis found herself largely upstaged and replaced by The Beatles and the British Invasion in 1964-65, and by the Motown vocal groups and American rock bands. Although her songs no longer made the pop charts, she remained a fixture on Easy Listening/Adult Contemporary format stations as late as 1967, and she remained a popular live act into the 1970s, not only in Las Vegas but in smaller markets across the country. In Europe, her popularity never waned, thanks to her foreign-language LPs, and she toured there as late as the 1990s.

Sadly, she suffered significant difficulties in her personal life. She was married and divorced four times, with three of those marriages lasting less than a year. Most traumatically, Francis was the victim of a brutal rape in a motel in Long Island, New York, in 1974, which caused severe depression, drug addiction, suicide attempts and psychiatric institutionalization that kept her mostly in seclusion for more than a decade. She successfully sued the motel chain for lax security, which brought about widespread industry upgrades in that regard.

She occasionally resurfaced with a new recording or a rare concert, most notably a disco version of “Where the Boys Are” that saw some airplay in 1978. She wrote and published her “Who’s Sorry Now?” autobiography in 1984, which was a best seller, and a second one, “Among My Souvenirs,” in 2017. In her memoirs, she made a point of thanking Dick Clark and “American Bandstand” for their early support. “If not for his endorsement, I was about to go back to college and pursue a degree in medicine,” Francis said. “My life would’ve been completely different if not for him.”

Dick Clark and Connie Francis in the 1970s

In the 2000s, Francis headlined shows in Vegas, San Francisco, the Philippines and Rome, sometimes in tandem with others like Warwick. During that period, she was in lengthy talks with Gloria Estefan about her producing and starring in a biopic about Francis’s life. “She isn’t even in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, and yet she was the first female pop star worldwide, and has recorded in nine languages,” said Estefan in 2007. “She has done a lot of things for victims’ rights since her rape in the ’70s. There’s a major story there.” But Francis and Estefan couldn’t agree on a screenwriter or a budget, so the project never proceeded.

Francis retired in 2018, and lived in Florida the remainder of her life. She had recently fractured her hip and was diagnosed with pneumonia the day before she died on July 16.

Although she died before she could see it, a 2025 Broadway musical about the life of Bobby Darin, “Just in Time,” features actress Gracie Lawrence portraying Francis as both a singing partner and a paramour of Darin in their younger days.

However, Francis lived long enough to see her 1962 song “Pretty Little Baby” become an unlikely hit on digital media platforms during the past year or two. It became a viral sensation 63 years after its first release, with 10 billion Tik Tok views and 14 million global streams on Spotify and elsewhere, with users lip synching to the track while showing off stylish, often retro, outfits and using it to soundtrack videos of their babies, kids and pets. “My granddaughter told me about it,” said Francis earlier this year. “I didn’t remember the song at first because it wasn’t a hit I sang much. It’s a blessing to know that kids today know me and my music now, even if just a little bit.”

Rest in peace, Concetta.

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